Eeeeew, smell this (You can say “No” without trying stuff)
I have two older siblings, and each of us had a weird habit growing up.
My brother’s, though, was the best:
Open the fridge.
Take something out, smelling it, and realizing it was rancid.
Call the closest person over and say, “EW! This smells gross. Smell it.”
Like… what? Why??
It’s like if you found a dead body, ran back to everyone and said,
“Guys, someone shot a dude in there. His guts are literally all over the floor and I almost threw up. Wanna see?” And I was to respond, “Hell YEAH I do! Also, let’s take pictures so we can relive the horror later, too!”
Yet for a looooooong time…
I did it anyway.
Walk over, sniff, and yep. Confirmed. It’s gross.
One day, my brother tried to get my mom with rotten cheese.
She literally just kept walking and said, “No. Why would I do that? I already know I won’t like it.”
Wait. What? You can do that??
You can just TRUST that you know you do or don’t like something, and the do/not do it?
If you already feel it’s an OH GOD NO PLEASE NO NEVER AGAIN NO NO NO… then it can just be a no.
Not sure about you, but I was trained to believe that when I didn’t want to do something, it wasn’t my intuition.
I was just being sTuBbORn and closed off.
But like my mom, I’m a sacral generator in Human Design. My gut gives me an immediate and accurate YEAH or NOPE from it on most things!
Meaning: I already know, dude!!
That “no way, José” feeling is all the justification you need.
This is true no matter what your design.
You’re not being stubborn.
You’re trusting yourself, which means you’re trusting your intuition. And your intuition always knows what’s best for you, not some rotten cheese-peddling
Plus, everyone has their own way that works for them!
If you have…
→ A 3 or 6 in your profile, yeah, you probably DO like to experience things first (In the words of a 4/6 I’ve met, “I don’t know f*ck about shit until I do it”), but it’s on your terms.
→ A 1 or 2 in your profile, you don’t need the “experience” as much. You can just google it.
→ Emotional authority, you will often need some time to decide. Once you’re calm and nonplussed, you’re ready to say yes or no.
→ Splenic authority, you’ll feel a quick hit of knowing that tells you the best decision.
→ Ego authority, you can trust the YES or NO as soon as it comes out of your mouth.
→ No centers defined (you’re a reflector) you just kinda “know” stuff, but sometimes it takes up to a month for that clarity to come.
The list goes on!
If you want to try it to be sure, go ahead. But don’t force yourself because someone else is shaming you into doing what they want you to do.
As always, trust your process.
You rock.
Love + Joy,
Ariana
P.S. I’m not saying don’t try stuff. Trying stuff is the spicy hot sauce of life. Again, I smelled that cheese MANY TIMES. Some of us really need the experience, even sacral generators! If I don’t know if it’s a yes or a no, I go check it out. But only if I wanna.
Oh, and a “no” right now could always be a “yes” later!